Between running a business, raising two kids, and somehow (I know somehow.... it's me... I keep saying yes) ending up on multiple boards and volunteer committees, I had reached a breaking point. I was constantly trying to use every minute of time available to me... Cher Horowitz's statement of "there are 24 usable hours in a day" was becoming my nightmare instead of my motivation. And I KNEW that I didn't need to do all the things on my plate, but I wasn't convinced I could just hand them off either.

But I got to a point where I thought, I think I can do this... there feels like enough here that I can give to someone else, so I did what everyone told me to do: I hired a virtual assistant.

And then when that didn't work out exactly as expected, I hired another one. And another. And another.

It wasn't until my fifth assistant that I finally figured out what actually works. Not because the first four were bad — they weren't. But because I continued to understand more and more what I needed and what kind of a person could actually step in and help run my life.

What I Got Wrong (Four Times)

Looking back, each working relationship that didn't pan out taught me something critical about this process.

Sometimes the issue was communication style. I'd find myself anxious because I wasn't getting the regular check-ins I needed, while my assistant thought they were giving me space to focus. Neither approach was wrong — we just weren't aligned.

Other times, it was about how much direction someone needed. I'd spend hours documenting every microscopic detail of a task because my assistant genuinely needed that level of specificity. That might work beautifully for some people, but it was draining for me.

And sometimes, I waited too long before realizing things just weren't clicking. I'd tell myself to be patient, give it more time, create better documentation—when really, the fundamental fit just wasn't there.

The biggest lesson? Hiring a skilled person isn't enough. You need to know what you're actually looking for.

What Nobody Tells You About Working With a VA

When people talk about hiring virtual assistants, they focus on the practical stuff: where to find them, what to pay them, which tasks to delegate.

That's all important. But here's what matters more:

Do you know your own working style well enough to articulate it to someone else? Can you identify which tasks you're genuinely ready to release control over? Are you prepared to build the infrastructure—the SOPs, the communication rhythms, the feedback loops—that make delegation actually work?

And can you articulate what you need in a way that helps you find the right person?

What Changed With My Current Assistant

When you find a great VA, everything is different. Not because they're magically better than everyone else, but because I finally understood how to make this relationship work.

They track tons of different tasks, research, and help both with my business and personal life.

But the real value isn't just the tasks they complete. It's the headspace they give you back.

I don't lie awake wondering if I forgot to respond to someone important (ok, I still kinda do, but I'm learning not to). I don't spend mental energy remembering which meeting needs which prep document. I don't carry around the constant low-level anxiety of trying to keep track of everything myself.

They have it. And that changes everything.

Why I Built This Course

After I finally got this working, people kept asking me for advice. How did you find your VA? What does onboarding look like? How do you structure the work? What do you do when something goes wrong?

I realized I'd spent two years learning lessons the expensive, time-consuming way. And I could help other people skip a lot of that.

"Delegate Your Mental Load" is the resource I wish I'd had at the beginning. It's a complete system for finding, training, and working effectively with a virtual assistant.

The course covers four main areas:

Understanding the fundamentals – What a VA relationship actually looks like, how to assess your readiness, and identifying which tasks you're truly willing to hand off (not just which ones take up time).

The hiring process – Choosing between agencies and independent contractors, navigating the intake process, preparing yourself properly, and making smart decisions during interviews.

Building your onboarding system – Selecting starter tasks strategically, creating documentation that actually helps, structuring the first few weeks, and setting clear expectations from day one.

Managing the relationship long-term – Troubleshooting common problems, delivering feedback that improves outcomes, recognizing fit issues versus system issues, and evolving the partnership over time.

You'll also get multiple PDF resources (including interview questions, checklists, and templates) plus Notion templates that give you the exact structure I use to manage everything.

Setting Realistic Expectations

Let me be straight with you: hiring a VA won't instantly fix your overwhelm. It won't magically organize your chaotic business. And it definitely won't work if you're not willing to invest time upfront.

You'll need to spend some time in that first month building documentation and providing training. You'll need to give thoughtful feedback and adjust your approach when things don't work. You might even need to make a change if the first match isn't right.

But if you're ready to do that work? The payoff is huge.

You'll reclaim time for the strategic work only you can do. You'll stop carrying the mental burden of tracking every detail. You'll have a genuine partner who makes your work—and your life—run more smoothly.

It took me over a year and five attempts to get there. This course is designed to help you do it much faster.

Is This Right For You?

This course is built for people who:

• Have legitimate repeatable work to delegate (at least 5-10 hours weekly)
• Are willing to invest effort in creating systems and documentation
• Want practical guidance based on real experience, not just theory
• Understand that building this relationship takes time and iteration
• Are genuinely ready to let go of control over certain tasks (and trying to figure out what those could be)

Why This Matters

We're living in a time when we have more tools, more options, and more flexibility in how we structure our work than ever before. We can build support systems. We can distribute the load. We can stop trying to hold everything in our heads.

You don't have to carry it all yourself. And recognizing that is powerful.

If you're ready to build a working relationship that genuinely supports you—and you want to avoid the trial-and-error process I went through—I'd love to help you get there.

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If you're ready to learn how to find, onboard, and train your virtual assistant, check out this video series with helpful handouts.